The Slut Shaming Effect
Halloween is considered the one night a woman can escape shame for dressing like a total slut.
It’s too bad there’s only one day a year a woman can dress how she wants without having to defend yourself.
Oh, wouldn’t it be nice if a woman could have full agency over what she wears (...or doesn’t), without it being dressed in shame, anytime of the year?
Wouldn’t it be nice if a woman wasn’t constantly ridiculed and judged for her apparel? That she wasn’t told what’s right and what’s wrong for her own body?
But no, instead—we’re fed insidious beliefs about the word slut—what it means to be one, and dress like one.
We’re told the way we dress speaks for us, and means we’re “asking for it.”
We’re told the amount of respect we’re worthy of depends on what we wear and what we do in the bedroom.
We’re told expressing ourselves sexually is wrong, and dirty; we’re only good for fucking.
We don’t respect ourselves.
It’s a word that‘s been used against us. It’s used to steal our voices from speaking up about assault; used to create shame; used to determine the type of treatment we deserve.
The slut shaming effect is perilous and maddening and it’s time to put it to an end.
We need to understand that empowerment looks different from person to person.
We must not subscribe meaning to someone’s actions and assume that because they do xyz, they are thirsty for attention, or don’t respect themselves.
Let’s encourage autonomy and remind women to show up in a way that feels good and authentic to them.
Last but not least, feel free to join me in the reclamation.
Let’s take the power away from a word that’s used pejoratively as a way to harass us for the choices we make with our body.
Let’s reclaim it
Build a different relationship with it
Use it
Own it
Because in all honesty, it’s a great word, a hot word, it’s a turn-me-on kinda word and I’m going to claim it, proudly
Where are my unapologetic sluts at?
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