Choose People Who Choose You

May 1

The people you surround yourself with matter.

They can tear you apart, stomp on your confidence, damage your self esteem, try to mold you into something you’re not, shame you for who you are, and spit you out making you feel like you were worth nothing.

I’ve been there. I know what that feels like. And the magical thing is that you have a choice. You can either keep choosing someone like that, or you can choose someone who:

Heightens your confidence
Accepts all the quirkiness
Never puts pressure on you and allows you to make decisions when you’re ready
Gives you reassurance when you need it most
Encourages you to do things you’re afraid of, but you know it’s necessary
Makes you feel safe, especially in your most vulnerable states
Helps you unpack your own insecurities and never judges you for them
Reminds you of how much you have to offer the world
Inspires you to be better
Empowers you to show up living your truth
Opens up space for you with nothing but compassion
Lets you own the fuck out of who you are and never shames you for it
Buys you Reese’s Cups—not mandatory, but definitely a bonus

Most importantly, someone who chooses you, for you and never tries to change you. Because darling, you deserve that and nothing less.

You are not under any obligation to stay in a relationship—it is all but a choice.

You don't just hangout with someone, you choose to hangout with someone. You choose to spend your time investing in someone. You choose to be around them and let them be around you.

So take a moment to carefully examine each relationship in your life.

Ask yourself:

Do I have to keep my guard up? Or do I feel safe?
Do I show up being my most authentic self? Or do I hide under a mask?
Do they push me to be better? Or shame me instead?
Do they encourage me to play big? Or keep me small?
Do you feel happy the majority of the time? Or sad?
Do they enhance my life? Or detract from it?
Do they invest in our relationship? Or am I the only one putting in effort?
Do they speak truth? Or do they lie?
Do they heighten my confidence? Or belittle me?
Do they add value to my life?

These are all serious questions to consider.

And I want to preference this by saying I know that severing relationships is never easy, but your life will flourish in a myriad of ways when you start choosing people who choose you. So choose wisely and choose carefully.

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