Getting Rejected On a Date

You go on a first date. And right away, you experience a connection, an attraction, a pull to this human. The conversation is easy, you share common interests, the chemistry‘s there, the date is going fairly well.

By the end of the date, you conclude, you’d like to see them again.

But.

They don’t feel the same way.

Suddenly, you’re fixed upon a thought: WTF IS WRONG WITH ME (😰).

I wanna talk about that thought.

If you’re getting overly upset about rejection early on in the dating process, you’re basically saying:

“𝙴𝚟𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑 𝚠𝚎 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚖𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝙸 𝚍𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚠𝚎𝚕𝚕, 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚘𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚘𝚗 𝚘𝚏 𝚖𝚎 𝚒𝚜 *𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢* 𝚒𝚖𝚙𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚝. 𝙰𝚗𝚍 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚖𝚎 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔, 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝙼𝚄𝚂𝚃 𝚋𝚎 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚎.”

The problem here isn’t that something’s wrong with you. You’re just giving 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 fucks and placing your worth in other people...

...and that’s not where it belongs.

Similar to how some like vanilla and others like chocolate, is exactly why some will want to taste you and others won’t. It’s not personal, it’s just a preference. You’re not going to be everyone’s flavor. And that doesn’t detract from how delectable you are. Some will like you, some won’t. And you can’t control if they do or not, so don’t waste your time trying to change your flavor to please.

Own the fuck out of your flavor. Celebrate how unique and radically different it is from the rest.

That way when someone you meet wants something else, you‘ll be okay, because you’re happy with the way you taste 🤤🍦.

Happy Dating,

Devi