Words Hurt

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words CAN hurt me. When someone says some mean shit to you, it most definitely stings.

There’s this myth that people’s words and opinions won’t hurt anymore when you stop taking them personally, and that just isn’t true; it may hurt less, but it still hurts.

We’re not immune to people’s spiteful words and opinions—even when we know it isn’t personal. And that’s totally and completely and fully okay because to have feelings is to be human.

And as much as it’s helpful and important to understand that...

> people are projecting their internal world and it isn’t about you

> your opinion is what matters most

> and whatever they say doesn’t make it true

There’s a catch...

Sometimes we get a little too carried away and start writing everything off as “it’s not about me,” to escape how we really feel.

We’ll say, “Oh, yeah that comes from their childhood trauma, it’s their own baggage so I see why they said what they said.” And completely deflect the fact that it still hurt our feelings.

It’s just another cute little subtle way we deflect and avoid our true emotional experience.

Even if it does come from their trauma and you know why they said it and you clearly see the full picture on why it isn’t about you... it still doesn’t make it okay and it’s still allowed to hurt your feelings.

So before you quickly say, “it’s not about me,”be careful and make sure you’re not deflecting important feelings and excusing someone’s shitty behavior. 💋