Can You Believe He Filmed Me Naked and Published it Online??

When I found out a man recorded me and posted it on a pornographic site, being naked on the Internet wasn’t the issue.

It’s *how* I ended up naked on the internet. It’s about a man using and having power over my body.

I didn’t consent to it.

I didn’t have a say.⠀

Just because someone’s naked at a nude beach, does not mean they’re okay with being filmed. Just because someone sends nudes, does not grant that person permission to share them. Just because someone’s wearing minimal clothing, does not mean they’re asking for it.

My body, my rules.

I decide who I share it with, and who I don’t.

I decide what I’m okay with, and what I’m not.

I’m well aware I’m at risk when I’m naked at the nude beach, because the world isn’t an inherently safe place—to deny that is irresponsible. It still doesn’t justify the behavior. So, when it happens, we must stand against it.

If we place the blame on the victim or the way the world is, we reinforce those behaviors. The blame, the shame doesn’t belong to the victim—it belongs to the perpetrator.

When we turn a blind eye, when we ignore what goes on, issues persists, oppression lives on, abusers get away with abusing.

We have to speak up. We have to share our stories. We have to raise awareness. We have to call out. We have to discourse.

When we do it gives us a sense of hope that these issues will no longer be tolerated. It holds people accountable for their actions. It creates change. It creates safer places. It creates equality.

So I want you to take a moment to reflect:

Where are you staying silent in your life? How is it working against you? How is it working against others? When you’re staying silent, what are you consenting to?